Be True To Yourself
We spend a lot of time trying to figure out what we want to be, and how to become it. It starts when we are young, with people asking us what we want to be when we grow up before we’ve even seen 1% of the world, and it continues on throughout our whole lives, as we think to ourselves, “I want to be a better housekeeper,” or “I want to be thinner,” or “I want to be a better cook.”
The self help and self improvement industry has only grown over the last fifty years, continuing to fuel these feelings of inadequacy, of our current selves not being enough. Even now, with the latest trend being about mindfulness, self care, confidence… it still all emphasizes the message that we are not currently enough as we are, and we need to be better. We need to be more mindful, more zen, more confident, more self-nurturing. Somehow, we need to be better at being ourselves. There is something awfully ironic about a book that tells you that you’re not doing a good enough job at loving yourself.
So here’s an idea. Instead of trying to “become” all of these things that we currently are not, instead of focusing on the scarcity of certain characteristics or capabilities in us… let’s celebrate what and where we are currently. “To be” is in the future, and we have no idea if the future is even going to happen. All we have is right now, this very moment, and who we are in this moment is all that matters and all that is. We can spend these moments berating ourselves for not “being” whatever it is we think we need/should/could be… or we could celebrate them. We can look at all the things we currently ARE and be amazed by them. You, yourself, right now, are more than enough! You are a miracle, all on your own, in your imperfect glory. You already are your own truth, and you don’t need to be anything more than you are in this moment.
When William Shakespeare said, “This above all: to thine own self be true,” it didn’t mean be true to some idealized sketch of our future-state perfect selves. You cannot be true to something that does not exist. No, it meant be true to yourself, as you are, right now. It is so much easier, and fulfilling, to practice appreciating all that you already are – after all, the pieces are in place – than focusing on all that we aren’t and “need” to become.